I love hard…like super hard, so if you’re in my life, it’s because I love and value you with so much adoration and respect. I give a lot to the people I love. I don’t say this to sound like a martyr, but because life as a mom is super busy, super stressed and at times, super crazed. I say this because if I open up my heart to a friendship, then I hope that a friend would value our friendship in the same light. Adult female/mom friendships are way different than those of high school gal pals- I’m not saying that it’s impossible to keep friends from childhood, because I still have those beautiful friendships in my life, but those post-baby friendships are so powerful and important because these are the friends that just “get it” when you’re in the thick of motherhood.
Look, I know we are all busy mamas, going through the seasons of motherhood like badasses, but I will always, always, always make the time to check in and be there for my friends because they hold such an important space in my heart…a different space than our children, spouses, parents, etc. I need my mama girlfriends because they are the ones who have lifted me up from the ground when I fell or the ones who celebrated each and every mothering (as well as non-mothering) triumph no matter how big or small it was. Friendship does require some work, some maintenance, but that shouldn’t seem like a job. It shouldn’t be an inconvenience to be in my life, so if it is, then I will just have to let you go. I would never wish you any harm or ill, but I have to protect my heart and feelings from the hurt. Good friends are some of life’s beautiful gifts. Good friends shouldn’t leave you behind when life gets busy. Good friends shouldn’t cause you tears, they should be the ones to wipe them away.
So here’s a vow to myself, I promise to continue to foster the beautifully amazing relationships with those who want to be in my life despite life’s obligations and stop wondering why others have bowed out of my life. I do not have the time or energy to surround myself with mama drama. I could not imagine my life without my crew, so if you’re in my bubble of purple glitter and love, just know that I will never stop sharing my sparkle with you because you have dazzled my life.